Parenting can put a strain on any aspect of life. Many times, new parents have to learn to adjust to their new responsibilities.
The transition comes easy for some, others must find ways to adjust or cope. For alcoholics, parenting can take a tole on their sobriety - especially for those who are highly functioning and can hide their drinking or drug use.
Both parents in the family dynamic have expectations set for them that are often unrealistic. Many moms are expected to work full-time jobs, keep the house clean, take care of the children, cook dinner, and much more. The difficulty modern moms face can be daunting and alcohol seems like an innocent way to unwind after a stressful day. HERE is one mom's story about how the feeling of inadequacy lead to nightly drinking, and how her realization of its ultimate destruction lead her to seek help and admit her problem.
Alcoholism is certainly not limited to mothers nor is it the only issue that can negatively effect the development of the children. Alcoholism in fathers can contribute to the child's inability to deal with issues in adulthood. The child can carry resentment for their father's behavior throughout their lives. HERE is one man's story of how his father's alcoholism effected his childhood. In the end he found peace and came to forgive his father for the embarrassment he felt during his youth.
Alcoholism and drug use effects the people we love the most and can scar children deeply. Weather it's physical negligence or emotional insensitivity, children understand more than adults often imagine. Don't wait until it's too late to restore the childhood and innocence destroyed by alcoholism.